I think mothers are amazing. My friends and relatives, who are mothers, are amazing. My mother is amazing. In fact, I never knew how amazing I could be until I became a mother. If you have a mother or know a mother, you should tell her on Mother’s Day that she’s amazing.
Truthfully, I wasn’t always this amazing. Before I had my daughter, I’m sure my “mom” friends would tell you that I was the woman that handed out parenting advice with a “how hard can it be” attitude. I was the one who gave crusty glares at mothers with crying babies on airplanes and in restaurants. It’s hard to admit but yes, I was THAT woman. Now I see women on airplanes with their crying babies or struggling with their kids in restaurants and we look in each other’s eyes like combat vets who can understand each other without speaking because we know they know and they know we know.
I knew when I became a mom a lot of things would change. I was ready for it. I was confident. After all how hard can it be? I didn’t realize personal hygiene and uninterrupted bathroom time would be on the list of things that would change. Until I became a mother I had no idea the amount of selflessness it would take to always let someone else have the last piece of cake, to stay up all night with your sick child and go to work the next day, to virtually give up any hope of ever watching prime time television again – and to settle in to a life that will be more giving than taking.
I always put “ability to multitask” on my resume but until I joined The Motherhood, I had no idea the skill set required, not to mention the lack of training that would be provided. Mom’s juggle laundry, dishes, baths, grocery shopping and cooking. They wipe runny noses, change stinky diapers, patiently place band-aids on pretend boo-boo’s, plan birthday parties and play dates some days with a scant four hours of sleep. Seal Team 6 has got nothing on mom.
Yeah, Yeah, I’m sure you help out a lot too Dad but if you ask most moms, I bet they’ll agree the ratio is about 6:1 for what we do vs. what you do. And, you only think you do more because even when you do one little thing, we shower you with so much appreciation and gratitude that you think you’re Super Dad. Let’s stop right here otherwise I’ll bring up breastfeeding. Game over. We win. And Dads, you know that no matter what you always get a shower.
While we certainly appreciate your occasional middle of the night presence, and the pats on the back and the flowers you sometimes send for no reason in particular – we know its all part of the job we signed up for and the job we really do love. And even if you tried to do more, we probably wouldn’t let you anyway. We really are just that damn amazing!
This Mother’s Day, my kitchen is closed.
Happy Mother's Day!